How to Start Becoming “That Girl”

A huge part of becoming is getting to know yourself, trusting yourself, and making decisions to better your life. It’s about making decisions that’ll feed your growth, your spirit, your desired future, and your well-being.

With that being said here’s some advice for becoming “that girl”.

1. Align How You Are With Who You Want To Be

Slowly start doing the needed work to become who you want to be. Start actively working on the parts of you that do not go along with the woman you want to be by eliminating the actions that do not align. The phrase “Just be so you can become then already be” is the quote that will motivate you to align yourself to becoming the woman of your dreams. Just slowly start introducing yourself to a new way of living. Start showing up as the woman you want to be. You don’t need validation from any other person to be the “It Girl”.

First figure out what type of woman you want to be and find women who already embody that. Start developing the characteristics and actions of women who are where you want to be in life. If you want to be more classy, more educated, or more successful ( Here’s a post on how to be more classy) then start to learn and follow the steps that a woman in that position took. Start aligning how you are to who you want to be and don’t ever be discouraged if you don’t succeed right away because consistency is key. Consistently becoming “that girl” will mean you are already her.

The game changer that has helped me go from broke and indecisive to knowing exactly how I want to show up in the world is Pinterest and The Visualizing Her Workbook. Curate your life’s aesthetic on Pinterest and answer in meticulous detail the prompts in this workbook to really see your life transform.

2. Listen To Your Intuition

Listening to yourself also means trusting yourself to know what you know you know. My professor who has their PhD would always say that so I assumed she knew what she was talking about and kept trying to make that make sense til one day it finally did! You have to be aware of and sure that the knowledge you have within is guiding you to better.

When you feel uncertain about a situation this is your spirit communicating that this isn’t where you should be. That’s your spirit giving you warning signs to exit the situation or come back at a later time because it’s not meant for you right now. Listen to yourself and change who or what you’re involved in so you can eventually align with where you should be and flourish.

Follow your intuition, follow that urge you get to do things that will elevate your life. You know what is and isn’t good for you. You can trust yourself to make decisions that will put you in positions where you want to be and you can flourish doing so. You can see and hear God nudging you exactly where you need to be to flourish into the woman of your dreams. All you have to do is listen to your intuition, which is direct communication from God. Here’s a post speaking on some of the most obvious signs that God is speaking to you if you are having trouble distinguishing this.

3. Stay Authentic

Whether that seems prudish, boring, “doing too much”, sensitive, or even crazy to the next person, always stay true to who you are. You are so rare and no one can even come close to the woman you are. Being self aware is so powerful and knowing what does and does not feed your soul will better align you to being “that girl”. You will also be able to avoid people and situations that go against where you’re trying to go in life if you stay true to who you are. You are that girl, actually, you are that woman. You should fiercely protect the woman you are becoming.

Maintain who you are at the core. Just be so you can become then already be.

I love you and God loves you.

Ovy